As a first-time parent, baby groups and clubs can be a great way to meet other new moms and dads, exchange advice, and also help with the social and emotional development of babies.
While the majority of baby group participants in the UK are mothers, due to the fact that women have more free time during maternity leave, dads are often welcomed with open arms for fun as well.
This is why a mother was upset after her husband was urged not to return to a baby band where he had taken her son alone.
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The mom took to the parenting site Mumsnet to explain the situation, telling users that while not just for moms, other participants said they were “uncomfortable” having “a penis in it. ‘group environment’.
Mom posted a copy of the email she received from the head of the baby band that said, “Hope you are doing well and your return to work has been okay.
“Just to let you know, a few of the moms texted me after Monday’s session to express their discomfort with having a penis in the group environment. They expressed that they felt bad about it. comfortable breastfeeding with him in the room and we want the group to always be a safe place and an inclusive space for breastfeeding moms.
“I’m a small business, so think it’s best if he doesn’t attend anymore. Sorry for the inconvenience, I will reimburse you for any sessions you prepaid. “
The mother said she initially took her son to the group herself, but after returning to work her husband took over.
“I returned to work two weeks ago, my husband is now our eight month old son’s full time stay-at-home dad and he loves it. He’s a brilliant dad and this will be the set up until for our son to start school, “she said.
“I have attended a baby band with my son since he was two months old, and he really likes it (as much as a little baby likes anything!).
“Nowhere in the band’s literature does he refer to moms, it’s all ‘baby and parent’ so I assumed my husband attending the band for me would be fine.
“I told the group leader three weeks ago that my husband would bring our son from now on and she was totally okay with it.”
According to the mum-of-one, there are only three groups of babies in her town, and the other two are specifically for moms, so this was the only one her husband could take their son to.
She also said she remained “absolutely livid” by the email because of how he reduced her husband to his genitals alone.
Other Mumsnet users were also outraged by the email – and some even called for action to be taken for “discrimination”.
The mother then returned to the station to offer an update after speaking to the group leader.
She wrote: “She [the group leader’s] the original indignation at the presence of my husband had nothing to do with breastfeeding! She was annoyed because they were all going for coffee afterwards and she felt uncomfortable not inviting my husband but didn’t want him to be there.
“I received an email from the group leader saying that he had been told that the complaint was not genuine and did not represent the feelings of the majority of the group.
“My husband will go back. “
Mother-of-one Rhiannon Soulsby, who runs the weekly baby group Hello World in Benton and North Shields, called the situation “shameful” and said baby groups should be supportive spaces for all. parents and caregivers.
“While baby groups are typically 95% female, I actively encourage fathers to register and participate in Hello World classes,” she said. “Single Fathers, Stay-at-Home Fathers and Gay Dads exist and have just as much right to be there as any mother.
“Babies won’t remember those first lessons, but parents will have unforgettable memories and special moments in them – and fathers shouldn’t have to be left out of the experience.
Rhiannon said she had a father who regularly attended her classes alone this term, and fathers who also accompanied their partners.
She also said that grandparents are welcome with their grandchildren.
“I have always been careful with the terminology I use when advertising or promoting my business, and I try to make it clear that we welcome everyone, regardless of gender or gender.
“I also think it is not fair that a baby should miss something that he loves that is beneficial for his development, just because his father takes him and not his. mother.
“Even though in this situation it turned out to be a false complaint, the damage is done and my heart breaks for the father, who was just trying to do something for his baby.”
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